I set up this blog yesterday. I don’t know if anyone saw it because I thought I linked it to my facebook page, but it apparently wasn’t. My blog has no special purpose except to amuse and inspire.
I was thinking about the verse in Genesis where God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” Humans are designed to be social creatures. It is good to have a certain degree of solitude. But too much is not healthy. Think about it. Every time you hear about someone going nuts and shooting up a place, you usually hear people say about that person, “He was such a loner. He always kept to himself.” I am a writer, which is a solitary business. But in the end I want to write something that other people want to read. That is why I look for critique groups or a critique partner to give me feedback. Of course, like any relationship it is essential to find the right group or writing partner who will give honest but constructive critiques. Having others look at my work has helped me find mistakes I overlooked and gave me suggestions for improvement I would never have thought of. Some Christians say they don’t need to go to church or have fellowship with other believers, but it is easy to get out of balance or back slidden without accountability. My favorite Bible studies are ones where everyone shares freely and I learn so much more than when I study alone. And different people have different abilities. When a group of people work together so much more can be accomplished by utilizing the different talents and abilities of the members of the group. It is all a matter of balance. We need to have friends to have a full life. But, we should also be willing to stand alone when the group wants to do something that violates our morals or rights. The college fraternity/sorority system comes to mind here. Many young college students put up with excessive hazing and conformist standards because they want to be part of a group. It takes a strong person to walk away if it gets out of hand. The key is to find the right fraternity, the right group of friends who share your values and respect you for who you are as an individual. And, of course, this is true when looking for a spouse. I remember ending a bad relationship when I realized that being alone was better than being with someone who treated me badly. And now I am in a healthy loving marriage with a man who respects me for who I am.
OK. I guess I’m done for today. If you have any comments that are helpful that would contribute to the conversation, feel free. If you are one of those people who like to make negative comments just to be mean, don’t bother. I won’t respond.